|
Training for Book Authors
|
|
|
Other Resources for Book Authors & Publishers
|
|
|
Please Support Our Advertisers
|
|
|
|
|
|
Inner Healing
Copyright (c) 2007-2023 Joyce C. Lock
All people have experienced childhood hurts, albeit some more than others. None-the-less, we have all had them. Whether it is a lack of children's developmental skills, a lack of adults recognizing the need to help them, or both ~ childhood hurts do not go away on their own. We can stifle those wounds at times, accuse and try to convince the perpetrator of their error, exhaust ourselves emotionally, cry a spell and think it's better now, etc. But, it isn't.
We have all heard it said of children, "They'll get over it." In a little while, they will be playing again; which leads us to believe that statement is true. But, it isn't. We could be 90 years old and still not have gotten over it ~ which is sure to be relived, again, as minds regress.
If you happen to be in the grocery store, see a child accidentally cause an orange to drop to the floor (if you see that child get smacked, or even if you don't) and it brings back a reminder in your childhood ~ that hurt is still there. Sometimes, trigger words will bring back a memory. Other times, it will be an event. But, any and every time a memory is triggered more than once (being it months or years apart), that wound is still present.
As adults, we can often find understanding for other's failures; they were having a bad day, they may not have fully understood the significance of their error, or just anything. And, even when we can't otherwise reason, we come to learn the importance of forgiving, for our own benefit.
However, when children are wounded, (as a rule) adults do not help them to understand. They may not have offered the reassuring hug that lets that child know they are still loved. Adults probably did not teach that child in the area of praying for our enemies and they may not have defended them at all.
Often times, adults were just ignorant of the child's spiritual need. But, many times, too ~ adults did not treat children with the same respect as they would others. Physical and verbal lashings often gave blows to children when they weren't even the culprit. Then, there were those occasions where adults had no business rearing children at all.
Moses was hid from Pharaoh. Jesus was kept from Herod. Satan seeks to destroy the child and that includes us, too. We were wounded, as a child, and that 'child within' still hurts; as deeply as the day the event occurred ... which is one reason why we try blame, anger, and about everything else first.
We can not change the past. Neither can we change others. But, we can change what becomes of us now. And, before we can begin a healthy journey, we have to rid ourselves of all that extra baggage (all that sorrow, anger, and rage that sometimes even physically binds us).
Maybe they neither want or deserve forgiveness. Or, maybe, they are still blinded in their error. None-the-less, we have been made free from the sins of our fathers and it is up to us to take hold of that freedom.
__________________
Get out pen and paper, if you will. Make a list of every hurt that comes to mind. It is alright if you do not remember everything. Just write down what you do. You can even ask God to help you remember. (1. Billy stole my watch. 2. Aunt Jane lied about me. 3. Dad didn't come to my game, when he promised.)
Sure, you may have gotten blind sided with a baseball bat. But, children have such tender and trusting hearts that the little things count, too. Do not be surprised if your first list is really long. But if not, what you have will be fine. Then, once your list is finished, put it aside for a bit.
Next, consider what your relationship with God has been like. Do you hold Him at arm's length, like dad did you? Maybe you try not to annoy God with little things, waiting until something becomes insurmountable before you ask for help. Maybe you envision God as a devil with a whip, just waiting for you to mess up. As is often the case, the kind of relationship we have with our earthly father is the same way we perceive God; making it even more important to be free of wounds, once and for all, so we can enjoy the relationship with God that He had always intended.
No matter how great one's father was or is, God is even greater. He is the most ultimately, supremely, perfect Father that ever was, is, or ever will be. He wants to be your everything! If you can envision what your view of a perfect father might be, consider that God is all that and even more!
So, if you will, let's remember the child, now. "Daddy God, I have a boo boo. Can you make it better?" Oh, yes, He can! Envision Daddy God, the most perfect Father ever, sitting in a rocking chair. You run to Him with a need, like little ones often do. He picks you up, sets you in His lap, kisses the wound, holds and rocks you, and caresses you (as any loving father should) until all is well. Oh, what joy is found in the arms of Daddy's love!
Ok, now that we have a glimpse of God, as our Heavenly Father, consider picking one item on your list (only one) and bringing Him a boo boo. And, it is ok to start with one that was a lesser hurt.
When wounded as adults, we can reason and find resolve as an adult. However, when the child is wounded, it is the child that needs to be healed.
Once you have made your selection and found a private place, to be undisturbed, go back in time. How old are you, 4, 8, a teen? Remember what happened and how it felt.
The first time, you might not be comfortable running into Daddy's arms. That's ok. Just envision Daddy God in His rocking chair, walk up to Him and climb into His lap. Then, begin telling Him what happened.
If you sat in someone else's lap, you wouldn't expect them to know the problem unless you verbalized it. So, say the words out loud. Yes, God already knows everything you think and feel. But, it is important for you to let the feelings out, so they will no longer be bottled up inside you. Tell God what happened, how it made you feel, why it hurts so much, and anything else that comes to mind. Hug God's neck, feel free to cry, and let Him rock you for however long you need. When another thought comes to mind, say it out loud, too. Stay until all emotions are spent, as you do not want them anymore.
Then, before you leave God's presence, verbally try to understand and reason (to whatever extent that you can) why this person might have failed you; albeit their ignorance, impatience, fear, or what ... recognizing that the wound was usually not intentional to hurt you. Then, ask God to help you forgive them and tell God you forgive them. Again, say the words out loud.
In minor offences, this exercise may only need done once per incident. But, should the memory be triggered again, go back to God (using this tool) that the wound will be healed deeper and deeper ~ until it is totally gone.
Then, on another day, pick something else on your list. And, when your list is finally through, ask God to bring to remembrance anything else that should be added to the list.
And, once you realize 'whatever happened to you also happened to those who wounded you' (only their experiences were likely even worse), you will find less reason to be angry at victims who never overcame the wounds of their past and never found a better way to live. Then, you can choose to be the difference (to welcome your responsibility in stopping the chain of emotional or physical abuse) for the next generation, by getting the inner healing you need.
With each step, in the process of inner healing, you will be replacing darkness with light; placing God's awesome love where it should have been all along. He is a most awesome Father! Isn't it about time you got to know your Daddy?
|
Joyce C. Lock is a published author, poet, columnist, and Senior Writer for the Storytime Tapestry Newsletter. Her latest adventures include her new website Glimpses of God http://iam.homewithGod.com/glimpsesofgod/ unveiling mysteries via scriptural methods of Bible study. Joyce's writings encourage us in our relationship with God and each other. This article was sponsored by: http://www.keywordtext.com
|
VOTE ON THIS ARTICLE
Needs Work >>
0 -
1 -
2 -
3 -
4 -
5
<< Excellent Article
Tell our authors what you think about their article.
|
Top-Level Category: Family Articles || Related Categories: Religion Articles
10 Most Recent Articles Written by Joyce C. Lock
Just Think
Written by: Joyce C. Lock |
Distributed: 2009-04-30 |
Word Count: 702 |
Page Views: 4133
| Votes: 9 |
Rating: 2.33
Biblical lessons from Joyce C. Lock. What if people were to sell
Jesus the way we sell goods and services, with the same gusto,
determination and dedication to our cause?
Let There Be Peace
Written by: Joyce C. Lock |
Distributed: 2009-04-29 |
Word Count: 538 |
Page Views: 4123
| Votes: 7 |
Rating: 1.14
Biblical lessons from Joyce C. Lock. Finding peace in the common
age sometimes seems impossible. But with the right guidance, all
things are possible.
Our Gift
Written by: Joyce C. Lock |
Distributed: 2009-04-28 |
Word Count: 333 |
Page Views: 4319
| Votes: 7 |
Rating: 1.00
If you knew you were going to stand before God, today (not in
judgment, but meeting your very best friend) ... is there a gift
you would like to present Him with? Do you plan to meet Him empty
handed? Maybe you have a gift for God already. Perhaps, you never
thought about it and would like to.
The Lord is My Strength and Song
Written by: Joyce C. Lock |
Distributed: 2009-04-23 |
Word Count: 2321 |
Page Views: 4670
| Votes: 8 |
Rating: 2.63
Biblical passages by Joyce C. Lock. The Lord is my strength and
song, and he is become my salvation: he is my God, and I will
prepare him an habitation; my father's God, and I will exalt
him.
In Remembrance of Me
Written by: Joyce C. Lock |
Distributed: 2009-04-22 |
Word Count: 1799 |
Page Views: 3986
| Votes: 8 |
Rating: 1.50
Biblical passages from Joyce C. Lock. The temptation of Jesus.
Seek Me First
Written by: Joyce C. Lock |
Distributed: 2009-04-21 |
Word Count: 1968 |
Page Views: 4698
| Votes: 9 |
Rating: 2.11
Biblical passages from Joyce C. Lock.
The Abbreviated Christmas - XMAS -
Written by: Joyce C. Lock |
Distributed: 2007-11-13 |
Word Count: 169 |
Page Views: 4903
| Votes: 6 |
Rating: 1.17
If you are like me you may not care to consider Wikipedia's
explanation. But, if spelling 'Christmas' as 'xmas' is your
preference, you might appreciate knowing how the 'X' in
'xmas' began.
Legalism
Written by: Joyce C. Lock |
Distributed: 2007-09-07 |
Word Count: 252 |
Page Views: 4633
| Votes: 7 |
Rating: 0.71
Within Christian circles is known the term 'legalism'. We know
it when we see it, couldn't possibly be guilty of it, but know
someone who is. When pressed to define it, the bottom line
answer is, 'Not what we're doing.'
A Way to Escape
Written by: Joyce C. Lock |
Distributed: 2007-09-06 |
Word Count: 322 |
Page Views: 4179
| Votes: 6 |
Rating: 2.00
Have you ever found yourself in a position where, if you just
keep your mouth shut, you will receive the credit? Perhaps you
observe the keys in another's car. Maybe you're in a different
town where no one would notice you visiting the local bar. Or,
you're on vacation, at the beach, where church members will
never see how you dress.
One Day at A Time
Written by: Joyce C. Lock |
Distributed: 2007-09-06 |
Word Count: 140 |
Page Views: 4264
| Votes: 7 |
Rating: 1.57
If just for today, Lord, I'll keep my eyes and heart in tune to
Your ever-loving presence. I'll walk with You, talk with you,
and glean upon Your every word; be ready to go, ready to stay,
and bask in the fullness of Your day.
All of Author's Articles on this site: Joyce C. Lock Articles
Most Recent "Family" Articles
Why We Women Are Our Own Greatest Enemy When Dating
Written by: RoseMary Alberts |
Distributed: 2013-11-06 |
Word Count: 544 |
Page Views: 8629
| Votes: 33 |
Rating: 1.97
I have learned that while there are women who want to be
committed to one man, there are some others who seek only
attention, gifts, dinners, movies etc, and still others who are
only interested in having a physical relationship. But all these
three categories cannot be used as a base to judge women and
their point of view about relationships only because, like I
said, "Women never know what they want." So read on and you
will know what I mean...
When A Strong Woman Can Make You A Better Man
Written by: Coalton Reynolds |
Distributed: 2013-11-05 |
Word Count: 625 |
Page Views: 11257
| Votes: 24 |
Rating: 2.04
Behind every man, there is a strong women. After my recent
split with my girlfriend of two years I have found myself
thinking how much I have changed. At first, I just thought I
was only different around her, but now I seem to be a
totally different person.
Tips to Help You Get Back in the Dating Game After a Long-Term Relationship Ends
Written by: RoseMary Alberts |
Distributed: 2013-10-30 |
Word Count: 773 |
Page Views: 8565
| Votes: 24 |
Rating: 1.50
There are very few things in life that are as terrifying,
frustrating, rewarding, exciting and just plain crazy as dating;
especially if you have ceased to be a "spring chicken" or have
been out of the dating scene for many years. If you've found
yourself "back on the market" after being in a committed
relationship for many years, you may be petrified by the prospect
of dating again. The tips in this article will help you get back
into the game quickly and successfully...
The Eight Commandments of Online Dating
Written by: Kandice Skaggs |
Distributed: 2013-10-24 |
Word Count: 1153 |
Page Views: 5351
| Votes: 9 |
Rating: 1.22
Dating and "desperate" may start with the same letter, but
they are not synonymous. Never were and never will be. If
you take the time to follow these eight online dating
commandments, you might be able to find the happiness you
seek at the other end of your online dating communications.
The Day My Daughter Woke Me Up to See That Her Father Never Really Loved Me
Written by: Mary Ann Lipitz |
Distributed: 2013-10-18 |
Word Count: 527 |
Page Views: 7343
| Votes: 26 |
Rating: 2.04
I am 31 years old with two children, and I was in a relationship
with the man I loved until two years ago. We were not married but
we lived together, and yes he is the father of my children. We
had been together for more than five years at that point, but we
never felt the need to get married. We had been happy the way
things were, until one day my daughter changed all that, at least
for me.
Dating Rules Explained: How to Turn Your Date Into a Relationship
Written by: RoseMary Alberts |
Distributed: 2013-10-16 |
Word Count: 779 |
Page Views: 9151
| Votes: 28 |
Rating: 1.64
How adults behave on a date depends more on their intentions
towards the other person than it does on other factors. For
instance, a man who really likes a woman is going to behave
differently towards her than he would a woman he is only casually
interested in. Sometimes, it is hard to know the difference.
6 Things You Can Do Today To Reduce Your Carbon Footprint Tomorrow
Written by: Lee Dobbins |
Distributed: 2011-12-12 |
Word Count: 845 |
Page Views: 6805
| Votes: 6 |
Rating: 0.67
Reducing your carbon footprint is something that everyone
should strive for but what if you don't have a lot of money
to buy eco friendly appliances and hybrid cars? Here are 6
easy things that you can do right now to help reduce your
carbon footprint. These won't cost you a dime and might
even save you some money!
Raise Responsible Children
Written by: Marvin Marshall, Ed.D. |
Distributed: 2011-07-19 |
Word Count: 926 |
Page Views: 569
| Votes: 1 |
Rating: 3.00
Using the strategies outlined here will help give your children
both roots and wings. You will find yourself on the parenting
journey to raise responsible children with less stress and more
enjoyment for everyone involved.
Alpaca Wear Makes Terrific Gifts for Men and Women
Written by: Robert Moore |
Distributed: 2010-07-27 |
Word Count: 772 |
Page Views: 4860
| Votes: 3 |
Rating: 0.67
Alpaca wear has a long and venerable history and the first
record of Alpacas was in the Andean mountains. Alpacas were
perfect for producing a fiber suitable for protecting these
people from their extreme climate. Alpaca fiber is similar
to wool and known for its beauty, luster, warmth, and stain
resistance.
Top Ten 'Mistakes' Made by Parents America
Written by: Ryan Hogan |
Distributed: 2010-04-27 |
Word Count: 970 |
Page Views: 5788
| Votes: 3 |
Rating: 0.67
On one hand the word "mistake" may be too harsh. Every
child is different and only you really know if your
offspring is happy and flourishing. Therefore, who is to say
what a parenting mistake is and is not? On the other hand,
"mistake" may not be harsh enough.
Most Viewed "Family" Articles
Girls Sleepover Party Ideas
Written by: Jillian Gallo |
Distributed: 2008-09-16 |
Word Count: 837 |
Page Views: 17061
| Votes: 140 |
Rating: 2.04
Throwing a sleepover for your daughter is one of the most
memorable events she will have from her childhood. Regardless of
her age, these parties make memories she will take with her as
she grows up. How can you make these nights more memorable? By
following a few tips, you can make the most out of your
daughter's next sleepover.
How To Identify Toxic Black Mold
Written by: Daryl Watters |
Distributed: 2007-05-08 |
Word Count: 405 |
Page Views: 14589
| Votes: 26 |
Rating: 2.38
Need toxic black mold or stachybotrys toxic mold testing
information or mold inspector information. Certified Florida
based mold assessor and inspection firm serving Broward Dade and
Palm Beach County including Miami and Ft Lauderdale. Conduction
Florida mold testing IAQ testing for commercial and home house
mold and indoor air quality problems. Florida mold inspection.
Graduation Flowers Are At The Head Of The Class
Written by: Wesley Berry, AAF |
Distributed: 2008-04-24 |
Word Count: 538 |
Page Views: 14385
| Votes: 35 |
Rating: 1.83
The coming of spring signals new beginnings, and each year many
young adults take the first steps toward that new beginning
when they walk across the stage to accept a diploma at their
graduation ceremony. Of course, with graduation comes excitement,
smiles, tears, a big celebration, and lots of wonderful memories.
One way to help make the day even more beautiful and memorable
is with flowers.
When A Strong Woman Can Make You A Better Man
Written by: Coalton Reynolds |
Distributed: 2013-11-05 |
Word Count: 625 |
Page Views: 11257
| Votes: 24 |
Rating: 2.04
Behind every man, there is a strong women. After my recent
split with my girlfriend of two years I have found myself
thinking how much I have changed. At first, I just thought I
was only different around her, but now I seem to be a
totally different person.
How To Find Work At Home Jobs For Work At Home Moms
Written by: Glen OReilly |
Distributed: 2009-11-03 |
Word Count: 1512 |
Page Views: 9582
| Votes: 29 |
Rating: 2.52
As the economy continues to tighten for many American families,
more moms are looking to the Internet to find the extra money
needed to help their families survive during this economically
challenging time. The good news is that there are plenty of
opportunities for the mom seeking to earn money from home... When
you know where to find them... This article will show you where
to find those work-at-home jobs and telecommuting jobs you
desire...
Destructive Behaviors That Cause a Relationship Break Up
Written by: James Kern |
Distributed: 2009-07-15 |
Word Count: 644 |
Page Views: 9471
| Votes: 21 |
Rating: 2.43
On the surface, you think that being in love is the greatest
thing since sliced bread, but underneath you're flailing and
kicking and trying to get back to the status quo, which is you
being alone and miserable. It sucks, but you're used to life
there. If Alone and Miserable were a bar, everybody there would
know your name.
Selective Mutism Disorder Is More Of A Problem Than You Think
Written by: Ingrid Stenquist |
Distributed: 2007-04-11 |
Word Count: 682 |
Page Views: 9445
| Votes: 33 |
Rating: 3.42
One of the worst and most severe manifestations of childhood
social anxiety disorders is labeled as Selective Mutism disorder.
Originally, fifteen years ago the disorder was called Elective
Mutism because doctors figured that all children who didn't talk
were either shy or in another category. Elective mutes were seen
as belligerent, stubborn, and obnoxious kids who were rebelling
by not talking against some effort in order to get attention.
Pepper Spray: How Does it Feel to Get Blasted?
Written by: Fred Cheney |
Distributed: 2007-12-18 |
Word Count: 477 |
Page Views: 9440
| Votes: 28 |
Rating: 2.61
It's something to think about. What would happen if you tried
to use pepper spray and it sprayed into your own eyes? And,
could you accidentally blind someone with it? Permanently maim
them? What are the effects of pepper spray? These are important
questions and they certainly have answers.
Dating Rules Explained: How to Turn Your Date Into a Relationship
Written by: RoseMary Alberts |
Distributed: 2013-10-16 |
Word Count: 779 |
Page Views: 9151
| Votes: 28 |
Rating: 1.64
How adults behave on a date depends more on their intentions
towards the other person than it does on other factors. For
instance, a man who really likes a woman is going to behave
differently towards her than he would a woman he is only casually
interested in. Sometimes, it is hard to know the difference.
I Want My Ex Back! 5 Tips That Will Improve Your Chances
Written by: James Kern |
Distributed: 2009-03-03 |
Word Count: 625 |
Page Views: 8920
| Votes: 15 |
Rating: 2.73
Five killer tips that help you claw back your ex, even if your
situation seems in dire straits.
Highest Ranked "Family" Articles
Selective Mutism Disorder Is More Of A Problem Than You Think
Written by: Ingrid Stenquist |
Distributed: 2007-04-11 |
Word Count: 682 |
Page Views: 9445
| Votes: 33 |
Rating: 3.42
One of the worst and most severe manifestations of childhood
social anxiety disorders is labeled as Selective Mutism disorder.
Originally, fifteen years ago the disorder was called Elective
Mutism because doctors figured that all children who didn't talk
were either shy or in another category. Elective mutes were seen
as belligerent, stubborn, and obnoxious kids who were rebelling
by not talking against some effort in order to get attention.
Anybody Can Spend, but Can You Save?
Written by: Rich Thawley |
Distributed: 2009-01-22 |
Word Count: 527 |
Page Views: 4608
| Votes: 20 |
Rating: 3.25
We have a great weakness in our society of wanting immediate
gratification. We are under a constant barrage in all forms of
media to buy this or to buy that. In our world of credit cards
and charge accounts it is a challenge for many to resist the
temptations of materialism. Don't get me wrong, I think it's
fun to have nice things, but only after we can afford them.
How Can Bible Study Help Kids Grow Up?
Written by: Adam Barnett |
Distributed: 2007-10-23 |
Word Count: 463 |
Page Views: 5384
| Votes: 13 |
Rating: 3.15
Bible study is probably the number one way to keep your kids on
the right path, and keep them out of trouble. We can't watch our
kids all day and night, and we can't keep bad influences from
coming to them. But what we CAN do is make sure they know wrong
from right. This will help them when they face problems and major
decisions on their own.
Being a Parent... Opportunities to Turn A Bad Experience Into a Good Experience
Written by: Bill Platt |
Distributed: 2007-11-12 |
Word Count: 478 |
Page Views: 5889
| Votes: 21 |
Rating: 3.10
The biggest challenge I have had to face in my own life is that
of being a good parent. My kids make it hard for me to stay true
to the rules of good parenting... They break everything I own...
Repeatedly... Fortunately, I do have the presence of mind to
realize that as toddlers and young children, they really do not
intend to break things...
Home Alone Child Safety
Written by: Jerry Tarrer |
Distributed: 2007-03-21 |
Word Count: 1038 |
Page Views: 4561
| Votes: 8 |
Rating: 3.00
Your child's safety depends to a large part on good
communication between you and your children. This is especially
true of two-income families, and single parent families where the
children are left alone for extended periods of time and have to
care for themselves.
PB and Js And Licking The Bowl - The Joys Of A Kid Friendly Kitchen!
Written by: Pamela Cole Harris |
Distributed: 2008-02-14 |
Word Count: 554 |
Page Views: 5451
| Votes: 8 |
Rating: 3.00
Remember licking the bowl when you were a kid? Or making your own
peanut butter sandwiches with grape, or better yet strawberry,
jelly? Mmmmm... the smell of homemade oatmeal cookies! And they
were even better because you knew you helped make them! Kitchens
can be a place of special memories for kids of any generation.
Are you building those memories with your children or do you view
the kitchen as a dangerous place for kids?
Educational Toys Can Be Fun
Written by: Kim Michael |
Distributed: 2009-04-01 |
Word Count: 521 |
Page Views: 3739
| Votes: 10 |
Rating: 3.00
Most parents these days are looking for toys that can be both
educational and fun. When playing with our children, parents want
to teach as well as have fun.
Potty Training Made Easy
Written by: Kim Michael |
Distributed: 2009-04-07 |
Word Count: 507 |
Page Views: 4280
| Votes: 7 |
Rating: 3.00
If you're the parent of a toddler, you are probably looking for
the right signs that your child is ready to be potty trained.
Potty training your child can be a frustrating time in your life.
When your child is ready to be potty trained, they will provide
to you clues that the timing is right. If you capitalize on these
clues, and use the right tools, this can be an exciting time in
your life, as well as your child's.
Understanding State Child Support Laws and Guidelines
Written by: Amerion Abler |
Distributed: 2007-01-15 |
Word Count: 1078 |
Page Views: 3515
| Votes: 12 |
Rating: 2.92
Child support is the government's means of ensuring that
children enjoy the financial security that a two-parent home
would have afforded them. This is the primary moral concern of
child support laws --- that children be well provided for --- and
it is based on the principle of responsibility. Read on as we
examine the role of child support and how to keep it fair for
both parents.
A Cruzader Christmas
Written by: Lisa Stockmann Karp |
Distributed: 2009-01-23 |
Word Count: 1185 |
Page Views: 5554
| Votes: 9 |
Rating: 2.89
Jun and Joyce Dela Cruz couldn't believe their eyes. In November
2000, they watched a disturbing television news report that
changed their Christmas forever. Thousands of the more than
10,000 homeless on Los Angeles' Skid Row would be going without
a Thanksgiving or Christmas meal that year.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Article Reprint Rights
|
This work is
licensed under a
Creative Commons
License
You are not required to show the creative commons license notice when you reprint this work.
|
|
Article Statistics
|
Word Count: 1421
Total Views: 4350
Article Rating: 0.88 of 5
Votes Cast: 8
More Articles By Author:
Articles On This Website
Last Distribution Date:
2007-04-17 12:24:00
Internal ID: #4712
|
|
|
Home