Search Our Site  
Owned by Bill Platt: (405) 780-7745 9am-6pm CST, Mon to Fri



'Home Is Where the Heart Is'

Copyright © 2007-2008 Sally Goldberg, Ph.D.


Q. Sometimes I feel like life at home is like being on a treadmill. Any ideas for breaking that cycle?

A. While "home is where the heart is," it is mom who is the "heart of the matter." Although the major part of your mom job is care of the children, it is care of you that is at the root of it all.

Mom Time

All work and no play make mom a dull girl. As you start off the New Year, the key is to strive for balance. As you plan your day, week, month, and year, be sure to inlude outings that you like for yourself like coffee with a friend, workouts of different types, hobby events, or a stroll in the park. Movies, theater, museums and unique restaurants are also great places to go. In addition, home endeavors are important. Make as much time as you can to put your feet up with a magazine, read a book in a favorite spot, watch a new and exciting DVD, work on your hobby, or create with a craft. A fun-filled mom is at the "heart" of a happy child.



Hands-on Interactive Play

In addition to planning time for the "new you," there are things you can do to help life at home run more smoothly. One suggestion is to provide your child with as many hands-on interactive play activities as possible. Clay, play dough, building sets, bubbles, simple dolls, pegs and pegboards, and the like all provide opportunities for your child to experience hands-on interactive play. Because of the free-form materials these all provide open-ended experiences. They allow you to participate, facilitate, or just observe. The least formed the toy, the most value it has, and conversely, the most formed the toy, the least value it has. This is because little form leaves the most room for creativity. As the old saying goes, "The more you put into it, the more you get out of it."

"Play is a Child's Work, and Toys are the Tools."

First the child wants to play. Then the child or makes whatever toys he/she needs for playing. Finding or making the toys is part of the process.

  • A child wants to play house... out comes the plastic dishes, cutlery, cups, and napkins.
  • A child wants to play store... out comes the empty food boxes, a play cash register, and play money.
  • A child wants to play doctor... out comes Dad's big white shirt, cotton balls, and band aids.

    Making Your Own Toys

    Sometimes making the toys starts off the play process. Girls can spend hours making doll clothes out of material scraps and doll houses out of small cartons. They make carnations out of tissues. Boys make their own toy cars out of boxes and wheels and all kinds of intricate structures out of toothpicks, dowels, and other household extras. Many children have hours of fun creating with Popsicle® sticks. Even though we are so used to buying toys to start play for our children, this is often a way of putting the cart before the horse.

    Lead Paint and Other Poisons

    Worried about lead paint or other chemicals in your child's toys? Easily accessible materials from around the house can help. Check out your recycle bin for safe plastic containers. Get index cards in all sizes and pastel colors. Collect markers, crayons, child-sized scissors, and chalk. Use these and other supplies like ribbon and yarn to make your own toys with and for your child.

    Play

    Here are some guidelines that will help you and your child enjoy the rewards of playtime balance:

  • Play has no rules. It grows from the ideas and imagination of the players.
  • Play is like a dance to be enjoyed. It is not like a race to be won.
  • Play is best with toys that have these four characteristics:
  • Interesting to see
  • Fun to touch
  • Designed for interaction
  • Have surprise!

    Happy New Year to you and your family! The better you take care of yourself, the better you will be able to care for your child. Meaningful mom-time plus purposeful child-time is the formula for a smooth-running family. As your child becomes more creative, self-directed, and independent the end result will keep you fun-filled.




    About The Author:
    Sally Goldberg, Ph.D., is a professor of education at the University of Phoenix and parenting specialist. Through her books, articles, presentations, and one-on-one coaching she empowers parents to solve behavior and learning problems. She helps family life to run more smoothly. Dr. Sally gives weekly parenting classes in different locations in and around Phoenix, AZ. For further information call 480-766-6323 or e-mail drsally@drsallyparenting.com Find out more at http://www.drsallyparenting.com

    VOTE ON THIS ARTICLE

    Needs Work >> 0 - 1 - 2 - 3 - 4 - 5 << Excellent Article

    Tell our authors what you think about their article.


    Automatically Post This Article To Your Blog by inserting your Email-To-Blog Address, as can be set up in your Blogging software:


    "Link Back To This Article" Copy-And-Paste


    Are You Using This Article? We want to know about it.

    HTML Article Copy-And-Paste


    TEXT Article Copy-And-Paste


    Article Description Copy-And-Paste


    Article Keywords Copy-And-Paste




    *** Digital Reprint Rights ***

  • If you publish this article in a website/forum/blog, You Must Set All URL's or Mailto Addresses in the body of the article AND in the Author's Resource Box as Hyperlinks (clickable links).


  • Links must remain in the form that we published them. Clean links should point to the Author's links without redirects having been inserted into the copy.


  • You are not allowed to Change or Delete any Words or Links in the Article or Resource Box. Paragraph breaks must be retained with articles. You can change where the paragraph breaks fall, but you cannot eliminate all paragraph breaks as some have chosen to do.


  • Email Distribution of this article Must be done through Opt-in Email Only. No Unsolicited Commercial Email.


  • You Are Allowed to format the layout of the article for proper display of the article in your website or in your ezine, so long as you can maintain the author's interests within the article.


  • You may not use sentences from this article as an input for any software that steals sentences from others in order to build an article with software. The copyright on this article applies to the "WHOLE" article.



  • *** Author Notification ***

    We ask that you notify the author of publication of his or her work. Sally Goldberg, Ph.D. can be reached at:
    drsally@drsallyparenting.com


    *** Print Publication Reprint Rights ***

    If you desire to publish this article in a PRINT publication, you must contact the author directly for Print Permission at: drsally@drsallyparenting.com


    Creative Commons License
    This work is licensed under a
    Creative Commons License.


    (You are not required to show the creative commons license notice when you reprint this work.)




    Quick Links:
    Home | Article Distributions | Ghost Writers
    Article Marketing Blog | Article Marketing Ebook


    Unless Otherwise Noted, All Content On This Site Is:
    Copyright © 2001-2008, The Phantom Writers