Before you even think about online dating, you must know about
dating scams.
This is serious: if you get too deeply involved, a dating scam
can significantly hurt not only your heart, but your finances,
too.
Make sure you know how to protect yourself from fraud when using
dating sites!
Internet personals, online introduction agencies and matchmaking
sites allow anyone to join for free, and they usually do not
screen their members. It means you never know who is behind
this pretty photo: a real beautiful woman or a con artist who
downloaded a photo of an unknown model from the Internet.
There are four types of online dating scams:
1. Prostitute scam; 2. Phone scam; 3. Travel scam;
4. Nigerian postal scam.
Let me tell you more about these scams.
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1. Prostitute scam
Prostitutes are straightforward: they place profiles on dating
sites to solicit business. Such profiles are usually easily
recognized by sleazy user names and steamy self-descriptions.
They don't waste time letting you know what they are after.
2. Phone scam
This is the variation of the old phone scam: the person asks
you to call them, and when you do, you get a bill in the mail
for hundreds of dollars (1900 number).
3. Travel scam
The person resides overseas and asks you to help them with
travel expenses to visit you.
4. Nigerian postal scam
The person pretends to be a relative of a diseased government
official who asks for your help in a financial transaction.
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So, how can you protect yourself from being taken by Internet
con artists using online personals to reach their victims?
Here is the simple guidance that will make your use of online
dating sites safe and secure.
First, when you view a profile, look out for the things like a
sleazy user name, especially if it's a woman: guys cannot stop
thinking about sex 24/7 (and it's normal) - but women normally
don't do it. Sincere women don't choose user names like
"the_sweetest_sin", "ms_right_now" etc.
Second, read what the profile says: people milking others for
money will say something vague that can fit anyone.
Third, look at the photos: gorgeous professional photos in
combination with vague profile almost always mean trouble.
People with beautiful photos receive LOTS of mail, so they
become VERY selective and include many requirements in their
profiles (especially women).
Basically, any woman who talks about loving sex and experimenting
in bed is most likely not for real.
Any man who talks about being a millionaire isn't for real
either.
It doesn't mean there are no women who love sex and experimenting
in bed or millionaires on the site - they just DO NOT talk about
that in their profiles.
And any person who does, is a liar.
Simple.
Another HUGE warning is overseas profiles. Often people would
list their location as being local and when you start talking to
them, they reveal they are from overseas (Niger.ia, Russia, etc).
Such profiles should be treated as potential scams - always.
If the location in the personal profile doesn't match what the
person says about him/herself, my advice is to drop it altogether
and don't waste your time.
If you decide to proceed, do it for entertainment purposes only
and don't get emotionally attached.
What will happen, sooner or later you will get a money request
in some form - they need money for a sick relative, they want to
visit you and need money for tickets, etc - whatever the reason,
there WILL be a money request.
When this happens, you can play along and have some fun, asking
for instructions and promising to send them money - just don't
actually SEND it.
If you do, there are two variants: they will disappear or ask
for MORE money (hey, if you were so stupid to send it once, why
not try again!) - and keep asking for more money until you stop
sending it.
Don't even HOPE this is for real.
Because it's NOT.
You may want to believe it is, but better believe ME: I am a
real person and you can ring me and have a chat with me. With
those people, you can't.
So, who would you choose to believe: me, who tells you this is
a scam - or them, who ask you for money (which you can NEVER
recover)?
I work in online dating since 1999 - I KNOW.
Trust me on that.
Long distance + request for money = SCAM.
Forget any sweet stories you've heard in between - and any sweet
pictures, too. Most likely, the pics are downloaded from the Net
and belong to some model. (Hey, there were even scammers using
MY OWN pictures! ;-))
Guys are more vulnerable to this one than girls: I have never
heard about a woman who wired thousands of $$$ to some guy to
come and visit her - but the Internet is PLASTERED with stories
of men sending money to their non-existing female admirers.
How wonderful... this perfect female specimen cannot wait to get
hold of your zip and provide you with the greatest pleasure you
ever experienced!! OF COURSE she sincerely loves you and is
different from any woman you met before (and probably a couple
of generations younger than you as well).
C'mon mate: those perfect Playboy-type exemplars dying to try
your new sheets exist only in the virtual reality of your
correspondence.
They are as real as Santa Claus or Niger.ian millions. You know
this one: you get a mail from a relative of a deceased top
government official who begs your assistance in transferring
large sums of money (stolen from the country's people obviously)
- and easily promising to give you a few millions if you simply
allow them to use your bank account. The people may list
themselves as being from Nigeria, or any other African country.
This one is as clear as daylight, so if anyone starts talking
about money transfers, honesty and trust, simply BLOCK them.
Remember the formula:
Long distance + request for money = SCAM.
I hope this article will help you protect yourself from dating
scams and you will only meet honest, sincere and genuine singles
from now on.
Happy hunting! :-))
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