These are 6 common marriage mistakes, that the young people and 
those who care for them should be aware of.

Every marriage starts with a lot of hope and dreams about a life 
long association filled with love and togetherness. But very few 
marriages fulfill the hopes of the participants in totality.


There are various reasons for this but here we single out 6 of 
them. Every young person who is planning marriage should be aware 
of these most common pitfalls.

1. Marrying for the sake of love without first checking the depth 
of love.

No denying that all relationships start with a sense of love and 
mutual liking. Committing to a long term relationship like 
marriage solely on the basis of that feeling of love is a 
mistake. Because most of the time this kind of feeling is 
superficial and can not pass the test of time. Romantic feeling 
dies as time passes and far more important issues like 'family 
background', 'values', 'religious faith', 'financial stability' 
raise their head, and these issues are of real importance which 
almost every body with feeling of mutual love ignore.


2. Marrying someone who does not share an interest or hobby.

While marriage with a person who does not share an interest or 
hobby does not itself make the marriage unstable, presence of 
such an interest or hobby can make life more enjoyable for both 
the partners. And this can make a real difference so while 
selecting life partner this aspect must be taken into account.

But for some reason or other this aspect is often overlooked 
before marriage. And efforts start after marriage to adapt the 
partner to one's own interest or develop a new common interest. 
While that is not an impossible task, the process of adapting may 
become un- palatable and may lead to unstable marriage.


3. Not knowing what questions to ask for checking compatibility.

As discussed earlier that marriage decision based on initial 
sense of love may be counter productive. To make a marriage 
successful one should do some simple homework. Knowledge of 
future partner's background and certain other things can play a 
crucial role here. But many young persons either do not try to 
know all these important facts or do not know what are important 
aspects s/he must know to make their marriage successful.


4. Thinking proper and careful quarries may offend her/him.

One may think that too much investigation about future partner's 
back ground may not be a good idea. As the other partner may find 
it distasteful. This kind of thought process keeps many young man 
and woman from asking the right questions before marriage.


5. Depending too much on a friend or relative's recommendation.

A sizable number of young men and women often get married on the 
recommendation of relatives or friends. While generally relatives 
and friends are regarded as well wishers, marrying on their 
recommendation is not a good idea. As their knowledge of a person 
can never equal to the knowledge the person has about herself or 
himself. So the person to be married is in a much better position 
to select compatible life partner. Best way out is acting on 
their recommendation only after successful completion of 
compatibility check.


6. Getting married to make somebody else happy.

Sometimes people get married to make someone else happy. It may 
be parents or it may be relatives. There is no problem in making 
someone happy if that does not jeopardize one's own marriage. But 
most of time in such cases marriages occur without exercising 
enough caution. As a result one may end up marrying someone not 
compatible.


If you are really serious to make your marriage an exciting, 
loving and enriching experience you need to be careful about the 
above things before your marriage. 

Tapan Sarkar
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