It seems we are all seeking work-life balance in our lives.
* The busy Career Professional working hard to get ahead.
* The Stay-at-Home Mom who meets everyone's needs but her own.
* The Entrepreneur who loves her job but often feels engulfed
by it.
Sometimes it seems we need to be all things to all people:
parent, child, boss, friend, spouse. There are a million demands
on our time - all seemingly valid and important. Trying to meet
them all leaves us feeling as though we are on a treadmill of
activity with no end in sight. So how do we live a life that has
balance, peace, time, and still meet our responsibilities?
The Key to Work-Life Balance Is Knowing Who You Are
Yes, it really is that simple. When you know who you are, you
know what is really important to you. When you know what is
important to you, it is easier to make choices that support you
and how you want to live your life. In coaching, what is
important to you is called your values. Values do not refer to
ethics or moral standards. Values are the essence of who you are.
They are the behaviours and activities that bring you great joy
or that come easily and naturally to you. When you are engaged in
these activities, you feel most like yourself: connected,
energised, and peaceful. When your actions, thoughts, beliefs,
and goals are aligned with your values, you are living in
integrity and will experience a sense of peace, meaning, and
purpose in your life. Knowing your values is about knowing who
you are.
We often get caught up in doing all sorts of things that we think
we should be doing, but that are not very important. We are
constantly confronted with multiple possibilities of how to spend
our work and personal time. There is not enough time to do it
all. We often must give up one thing in order to have time to do
another. This is why it is vital that you are very clear on what
is important to you (your values) and are clear on what you
absolutely need to get done for any given week. It is important
to recognize the priorities in all aspects of your life. When you
know what is most important to you and have clear priorities,
then it is easier to make choices on how to use your time. Be
honest with yourself about what you can do and what you want to
do. Priorities will change day-to-day, week-to-week, and year-to-
year. Different things will be more important to you at different
times in your life. Be very clear on what is most important to
you. Many people may spend up to 35 hours per week watching
television. Is this a real priority for you? Perhaps you would
rather choose a movie or one really good television show that you
enjoy and let the others go. This would free up huge amounts of
time for you to do a myriad of other things. It is good to re-
visit your priorities on a weekly basis. What is a priority this
week, may not be a priority next week. Sometimes it is easy to be
clear on your priorities (attend Johnny's concert) and sometimes
it is not so clear.
When you are setting priorities consider:
* Why am I doing this?
* Is this something I need to do or is it something I want
to do?
* Or neither? Who else can do this?
* Is it important that I do this right now or can it wait?
* Will doing this support my goals and my values?
Setting priorities will help you make conscious and informed
choices on how you are using your time. It is all about living
with purpose. Spending your time focused on priorities will
increase your peace of mind and bring greater meaning and purpose
to your life because you are focused on what is really important
to you in all aspects of your life.
Coaching Questions
* Are you clear on what is most important to you? On your
values?
* Are you honouring your values with your choices and actions
in your life right now?
* How do you know?
* What would you like to have more of in your life?
* What do you need to let go of to make time for these things?
Take Action
1. Set Weekly Priorities
At the start of each week think about all of the things that you
need or want to do in all areas of your life (home, work, family,
self, volunteer). Make a list and then decide what is most
important for you to do this week. When you are determining your
priorities and activities for the week - base your decisions on
which ones will truly honour who you are and will support your
values and goals. If that volunteer work you have been doing the
past 2 years no longer speaks to your heart and soul, then it may
be time to let that obligation go.
Next, schedule time in your week for these priorities. Be sure to
also schedule 30-60 minutes in each day for flex time. This time
prevents you from over scheduling and allows time for the
unexpected, extra time for those things that take longer than we
think they will, and downtime to use how you like.
Hold your schedule lightly. It will not serve you to slavishly
follow a rigid schedule of to-do's. By setting priorities on a
weekly basis, rather than a daily basis, you build in some
flexibility on when you can get them done.
2. Set Boundaries
Set boundaries on how you want to spend your time and honour
them. You may choose to make 5-9 pm each evening family time.
If you do, be sure you do not return calls or check your email
during this time. Perhaps you have scheduled in an hour in the
evening to go to he gym. That's great! Do not be waylaid by
answering the phone on your way out the door.
Live Your Values - Love Your Life!
Creating life-work balance is really about honouring who you are
and what is important to you. It is about choosing how you spend
your time based on your values. Values are important because they
bring meaning and purpose to your goals and actions. Life is
fullest when you access your truth, love, and creativity and live
so that you are true to who you are.
If you would like to learn more about identifying your values,
fully honouring who you are in your everyday living, or creating
time and space in your life for what is important to you. Please
visit my website for more information and my free 4 week self-
help course: Living Authentically: Honouring Your Truth in
Everyday Life.
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