Quote of the day: All that you seek you already have within you.
Practically every year finding love is at the top of Americans'
list of resolutions for the New Year. That's the good news. The
bad news is that most Americans are looking for love in all the
wrong places.
The way I see it, the definition of love should not be limited to
romantic love alone. Love is more than a sentiment. Love is a
way of being. The broader definition of love should also be a
longing for experiencing a life of fulfillment, purpose, meaning,
inner peace, fulfillment, real joy and self-worth. After all,
everything we do is to either experience more love and
fulfillment or to compensate for the lack of it.
Some people have been willing to go under the knife, and endure
excruciating pain, to change their looks (hoping the mirror will
still be kind just a little longer and gravity will not take its
toll anytime soon). Some people have deprived themselves of food
while on the quest for attaining the perfect body. They have
been willing to go into huge debt and endure the worst kind of
pain and humiliation that comes from compromising one's integrity
and selling their soul just to support a life-style and status
they couldn't afford. Some even ignored and deprived the biggest
part of their Self, their spirit, which allows them to experience
all the very things they set out to attain in the first place.
In short, you name it and they endured just about anything in
their quest for love.
Even for those who were able to achieve material success, it was
only a hollow victory since no amount of money, good looks,
status and/or trophies could fill up the void inside which was
created by a malnourished spirit. They too discovered that "when
you get there, there is no "there" there," and that external
riches don't necessarily have the power to give us internal
riches ("real love" defined as fulfillment, purpose, meaning,
inner peace, real joy and self-worth) that we are desperately
seeking. At best they were flirting with the illusion of love
rather than experiencing the real deal.
In a "more is better" culture where vanity, and not virtue, is
worshipped (consider the growing trend of reality TV shows such
as "For Love or Money") it's easy to understand why we have been
looking for love in all the wrong places. Yet surprisingly, we
have ignored the fact that the natural state of our spirit is
love, which is the driving force behind all creation. Hollywood
stars, the media and multi-billion dollar industries have all
brainwashed us to believe that we are simply not adequate, worthy
or good enough to be loved just the way we are and that it is
only "He with the most toys, and not joy, lives." The reality is
that finding true love should not be either painful and/or
costly. You can find true love (in the broader definition) no
matter what you have been brainwashed to believe. First you
must recognize that you are a spiritual being first, having a
human experience (and not the other way around) and therefore,
your natural state of being is love. As such you were meant to
live a life of meaning, purpose, fulfillment, real joy, inner
peace, and abundance by reconnecting with your spiritual roots
(living in harmony with universal laws characterized by
integrity, giving and the honoring of all living things). We
can't truly be happy and fulfilled without the element of giving.
Real joy comes from making a meaningful difference in people's
lives, when money and power are used as useful tools to help make
a difference.
Next time you are tempted to look for "love" in all the wrong
places, consider the definition of real love. Most importantly
remember that all that you seek is not "somewhere out there," but
rather it is already within you. All you have to do is recognize
it and enjoy it while you can.
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