"Bigger, Better, Faster, More" was the title of an album which 
the Four Non-Blondes produced in the 90's. I was struck how this 
title seemed to represent much of our modern day culture. I have 
wondered if we could find "better" via smaller, slower, and 
less...come join me for a couple of minutes and see what you 
think. 

Part of what I have witnessed is this tremendous attempt to 
fulfill one's life with extrinsic, often materially-based, 
dynamics. Instead of a purpose-driven life, some people start to 
chase the insatiable energy of bigger, better, faster, more. This 
chase, from what I have seen, is much like trying to catch a 
jack-rabbit: The more invested you are in the chase, the more 
tired out you get and also the further you get off your true 
life-path. 

We do not have to look very far to see those athletes and media-
stars who have "made it" in their bigger, better, faster, more 
world, and who also have taken tremendous falls. All the bigger, 
better, faster, and more didn't save them from their self-
destructive choices. 

Try this on for a bottom-line: True happiness and true 
fulfillment come from within. The dynamics of knowing who we 
really are, why we are here, where we are going, and what we will 
leave as a legacy will bring us a complete life and inner peace. 
Maybe not bigger, maybe not faster, maybe not more, but rather, 
"better" through our own simple and powerfully personal truth. 

So here is an invitation for you: 

Take a look at what you fear the most and answer these questions: 

Have you become attached to this, or these, in a way that has 
defined your personhood? 

Are you chasing something that only wears you down and tires you 
out? 

Do you find yourself to be unhappy regardless of how much bigger, 
better, faster, or more that you do and have? 

If you answered yes to any of these questions, I invite you to do 
an inventory of your life. Spend some time discerning your values 
and your priorities. Discover your life purpose and your life-
path. 

It has been written:
Work like you don't need the money.
Sing like no one is listening.
Dance like no one is watching.
And love like you have never been hurt.

Find "the most important thing" in your life because the most 
important thing is to make the most important thing the most 
important thing. 

Ken Donaldson has been based in Tampa Bay offering counseling, 
coaching, and educational programs since 1987. His REALationship 
Coaching programs empower people to have more successful lives, 
businesses and relationships by building a powerful relationship 
with themselves first. Ken is also the author of the upcoming 
book Marry YourSelf First! Visit his website: 
http://www.REALationshipCoach.com for more information and 
sign-up his free e-program Illuminations and Sparks of 
Brilliance.    Copyright © 2005 Kenilee, Inc.