Spend any time really comparing ultra-successful people with
those who aren't but would like to be, and eventually the
difference really jumps out at you. I readily see this in MOST
of the people I deal with who are trying to build online
businesses. So, let's honestly examine what's probably holding
you back.
What keeps most people from succeeding massively in
accomplishing something outstanding? What really keeping you
from succeeding in your online business? In a word, it's
"fear."
I know... you're a "grown up" who's learned that most things
aren't worth fearing. So, you're uncomfortable with even
admitting the possibility that you're fearful. I'll let you
in on a little secret... most people feel the same way.
Let me let you in on a second secret... the way to get
over your fears is simply to face them. Face them and
do the thing that you are fearful of the most. Do it a number
of times, and the fear magically disappears.
Let's look at an example. According to many studies, the
single biggest fear most people have is pubic speaking. It
likely springs from the fact that while you're up in front
of a group, others could be evaluating you.
I personally give numerous stage presentations a year, and
conduct countless recorded telephone training calls,
tele-classes, and brainstorming sessions. I'm no different
than those who are afraid of being at the front of the room
- except that after you do it a couple hundred times, the
nervousness does go away.
When I was in the U.S. Air Force, I often had to get in front
of groups of dozens, sometimes hundred of people and explain
a plan or an idea that I had generated. Fortunately, I wasn't
given a choice! After doing this a hundred times in front of
everyone from my subordiates, to my peers, to 4-star generals,
I grew extemely comfortable doing it. My secret was simply
facing my fears.
The key for you is to simply DO the thing that you fear the
most... provided it's not something really dangerous :-)
Let's examine several common fears that you probably have
and how to overcome them.
Fear of failure is the one that stops many people from even
trying to accomplish anything "major." This fear so
paralyzes them that they WON'T even try.
One key to ovecoming the fear of failure is stacking the odds
in your favor. Jeff Walker teaches this in his recently
released course, "Product Launch Formula." He teaches that
since you only have time to do a few of the projectS you
probably have ideas for, you do the ones with the greatest
chances of success. You line all aspects of the project up
beforehand, and then executing the project is just like shooting
fish in a barrell. You make it very unlikely that you will
fail.
If you want to see how Jeff does this, pulling off numerous
projects that earn six or even seven-figures in a matter of
days... sometimes hours, you need to grab his course at:
http://P-L-Formula.com
You also need to realize that failure is still possible - but
if you've flowed out a plan, it's now less likely. Yes, there
is still some risk. Realize that nothing EXTRAORDINARY was
ever accomplished without someone taking some risk.
A second BIG fear many people suffer from is fear of
ridicule. I could tell you not to take yourself too seriously,
or to ignore the opinions of others. Better advice for you
might be, don't tell those who might put a damper on your ideas
what you plan on doing.
Also don't listen to those who've never accomplished anything
great. You don't want to listen to those who've already
convinced themselves that they could never do something great.
When they tell you that THEY could never do what you're
thinking of doing, they're absolutely right. They could never
do it because they're too afraid to even try. They're unwilling
to step outside their comfort zone. You have to be willing!
Seek the council or advice of those who have done something
similar to what you want to do. They offer unique insights and
can show you where the pitfalls are. Be prepared to compensate
them for their most valuable resource... their time. Acknowledge
the mistakes that their shared experience can keep you from
making.
We all want the approval and admiration of other! That's
why fear of ridicule is so powereful. Consider this though...
Often the ONLY cost of failure, or being wrong, is MAYBE
having to admit it to someone else. You'd be surprised at
how few people are actually watching everything that you
do 24/7. We're all too busy focusing on our own little
worlds. So, often you won't even have to admit your mistakes,
or the fact that you were wrong, to anyone.
A final fear to address is fear of wasting your time. often,
you won't allow yourself to get stared on a project because you
may discover six months from now that it's not going to be
as successful as you had hoped. Yes, this does happen! That's
why you only do the projects that have the highest probability
of succeeding and offer the highest ROI.
Closely related to the fear of wasting time, is idea and
information overload. You're afraid that if you focus on one
project, you'll miss doing another more appropriate and more
profitable project. You allow that thought process to SO
paralyze you that you just don't get started on anything.
Here's how I handle that "stumbling block"... I simply
write down all ideas that I come up with, but I don't
generally allow myself to start on a new project until I've
finished the ones I've already committed to. The exception
to that rule is that I do often buy domain names that are
ideal for a new project right away. I don't risk having
them snatched up. Buying the domain name also commits me to
actually doing something with the idea later.
Many years ago, I heard Earle Nightingale, on a cassette tape
that I have long since forgotten the title of, explain that
"Ideas are like slippery fish, and if you don't jot them down
they often get away forever." Earle's tape, taught me to keep
a pad near my bed so that even when an idea pops into my head
in the middle of the night, I can jot it down, and then not
worry about losing it. That's a great habit to develop. I've
taken it one step further and now often keep a portable
MP3 player/recorder with me while I'm driving, etc. When an
idea pops into my head, I just record it, and then I'm able
to refocus on what I was previously thinking about or
doing.
Ok, we've just covered what's holding many *potentially*
very successful people back. We've concluded that the way to
overcome it is to first of all admit that it's a problem,
and then boldly face your fears. Finally we've examined how
to handle simply having too many choices or ideas, so that
you can focus on one and get it completed. String together
a series of carefully selected, completed projects and you
can't help but be a big success.
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