What do you not want to do in your career? Do you not want to 
research new job opportunities because it’s too much work? Do you 
not want to update your resume because you are unsure what to 
write? Do you not want to make time to think about your career 
because you hope it will improve on its own?

Like eating vegetables, sometimes the career tasks that you don’t 
want, are the tasks that are best for you.

As human beings we are ruled by our feelings. We go with what 
feels right in the moment. The good part about this is we listen 
to ourselves. We know ourselves best and this self-awareness 
helps us greatly in our career. The bad part is "I don’t want 
to," which many times is not in our best interest.

If we went with what we felt like doing all the time, we might 
never get out of bed in the morning. (Doesn’t it feel better to 
be underneath your blanket sometimes?) But then what happens to 
your career dreams? When do you work on them? When you feel like 
it? What happens if you only feel like it from time to time?

Make sure "I don’t want to" wins. How? Follow these three steps 
below.

1. DECIDE YOU WANT SOMETHING DIFFERENT IN YOUR CAREER

Only you can decide whether your career moves forward or not. You 
may believe it’s your boss that is holding you back, the people 
in your office, or the human resource director that does not 
return your phone calls, but the truth is your career is in your 
hands. If you want something different, you have to do something 
different. Have you been disappointed by something or someone in 
your career? We all have. You are not alone. Don’t let what 
happened in the past predict your future. Decide that now is the 
time that things will change for the best. Get out there. Try 
again. Make a promise to yourself that you will. You’ll be amazed 
at what you can accomplish.

2. MAKE A PLAN

All great things in your career will not happen on their own. You 
need a plan. Think about all the times you have been successful 
in your career-you had a plan. You planned which school you would 
attend. You planned which companies or industries you would work 
for. If you had a big presentation or meeting with your boss, you 
planned for it. In all cases, you had a big picture in your mind 
and you broke that picture into smaller pieces. Use this system 
again.

Put these 3 items into your plan.

Item One: Describe What You Want.

A new job? A promotion? More money? More resources? Or, more time 
for yourself? Be specific. Your "what" is your goal.

Item Two: Describe How You Will Get What You Want.

Write down the steps you will take to make your goal happen. If 
you do not know, write down how you will find out. Open your 
calendar. Put in when you will do each one of these steps. Many 
times "I don’t want to" creeps in because you are not focused. 
You don’t know what to do so you do not act. Maybe you are 
waiting for the answer or the momentum to come to you. It won’t 
happen. Having everything in your calendar will keep you moving 
forward.

Item Three: Set A Deadline.

Create a date when you expect to reach your goal. You may reach 
it or not, but that is not the point. You need a game to play, 
something to shoot for. We work best when we have deadlines and 
you have just given yourself one.

3. WORK ON YOUR CAREER NO MATTER WHAT

All career goals are reached over time. Small consistent action 
on a regular basis produces results. When you begin working on a 
goal, you may not see the results right away. This does not mean 
you are not getting somewhere. You are. Trust this. Over time the 
results you want begin to appear, sometimes like magic. This is 
because you have been putting in the time and doing the work. You 
are beginning to see the rewards for your effort, but only if you 
have been consistent.

So, if you wake up in the morning and don’t feel like working on 
your career, or it’s the end of the day and you are tired and 
don’t want to, work on your career anyway because you said that 
you would. Put in the effort because the effort will be 
worthwhile. Plus, you made a promise to yourself that you would 
reach you goal. (step #1) Make your promise mean something.

So, what do you say? You only have one life to live, so it might 
as well be a life you love! 

Deborah Brown-Volkman is the President of Surpass Your Dreams, 
Inc. a successful career and mentor coaching company that has 
been delivering a message of motivation, success, and personal 
fulfillment since 1998. We work with Senior Executives, Vice 
Presidents, and Managers who are out of work or overworked. 
Deborah is also the creator of the Career Escape Program™ and 
author of Coach Yourself To A New Career: A Book To Discover Your 
Ultimate Profession. Deborah Brown-Volkman can be reached at:
http://www.surpassyourdreams.com,
http://www.career-escape-program.com,
or at (631) 874-2877.