Emotions feature prominently in any marriage. So how do you leave 
them out?

While it is absolutely true that emotions are very difficult to 
leave out of a marriage, it is also true that the biggest mistake 
you can make today as a married woman, is to make a hasty 
decision about divorce, that is totally based on your emotions.

That is exactly how some unfortunate women have ended up in the 
streets, desperate and penniless while their ex-husbands have 
been left to enjoy the family assets that they worked so hard 
together in acquiring. It really cannot get more painful than 
that.

Using emotions to make decisions is the reason why many men have 
gotten the better of women for years. In the increasingly 
ruthless world of divorce courts and settlements you should make 
every effort to control your emotions as much as possible. While 
few women would like to be like the cold and calculating lawyers 
and husbands that are fleecing women in divorce courts these 
days, they really have no option but to fight off, as much as 
they possibly can, the emotions and feelings of hurt that are at 
the core of a marriage headed for the divorce courts.

But controlling your emotions is not enough. To be happily and 
successfully divorced, a woman also needs information. In fact 
very specific information on what to do to ensure that no 
divorce-seeking husband takes advantage of them. After all nobody 
wants to be left with nothing to show, after spending the best 
years of their lives in a marriage that suddenly starts to go 
wrong one day.

In the same way smart women should not allow their emotions to 
keep them from acquiring information to help them prepare for the 
eventuality of a divorce even where they are currently happily 
married. Getting valuable divorce information does not mean that 
you are anticipating divorce. It just means that you are 
preparing yourself for any eventuality. It is just like the way 
folks take out life insurance on their spouses. It doesn't mean 
that they want to murder them (at least in most instances) It is 
just a smart thing to do in this unpredictable life, in preparing 
for eventualities that could cause serious problems to your 
current financial status. 

© 2004-2005 Cathi Adams.

Cathi Adams is the author of "Divorce Secrets: What Every Women
Should Know." This invaluable resource provides steps to ensure
financial security to woman faced with the possibility of
divorce.
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