Getting the right type of divorce advice depends on what type 
of divorce advice you want and what you want to use it for. 
When looking for advice about divorce, it is smart to clearly 
define what you are seeking the advice for so you can be sure 
to look in the right places.
 
Seems simple enough right?
 
Yes, but...lots of people who are deciding about divorce and 
seeking divorce advice lump the categories of divorce advice 
into one, and that's a big mistake. You should seek divorce 
advice from different types of places for the different types 
of advice that you need. Certainly there's more types of 
divorce advice categories, but here's a partial list:
 
Divorce advice type 1: Legal advice for getting a divorce when 
you are sure that you want a divorce, no matter how tough it 
will be to get that divorce. When asking for this type of 
divorce advice while meeting with an attorney, you may be asked 
if you're certain that you actually do want a divorce...if you 
do, don't waver, stick to your decision. It makes sense to have 
a good idea of all of the parts of your life, family and 
materials, that could be affected or sought after. You want to 
have your facts, account names, timelines, etc., in mind when 
meeting with the attorney so that your discussion is maximized.
 
Divorce advice type 2: Legal advice for getting a divorce when 
you are almost sure that you want a divorce, but want to make 
sure that the financial considerations are in order or that 
health of your children won't suffer in the long run. When 
asking for this type of divorce advice, you may want to 
consider seeking the advice of an attorney or financial planner 
for the financial considerations and a counselor experienced in 
family matters for the impact that a divorce might have on your 
children. The point is, split the two concerns up so that you 
get the chance to speak to 2 different people who specialize in 
each area so that you will get the appropriate divorce advice.
 
Divorce advice type 3: Legal advice for getting a divorce in a 
case that is relatively simple and will be a clean break, no 
financial or other family considerations to take into account 
for the divorce. This is perhaps the easiest type of divorce 
advice to get because it infers that you have already made the 
decision from an emotional standpoint and really don't have 
any other considerations of deep concern. When seeking this 
type of divorce advice, you most likely have limited financial 
considerations, a prenuptial agreement, or the situation itself 
as amenable to everyone and you just need someone to do the 
paperwork.
 
Divorce advice type 4: Legal and/or counseling advice regarding 
whether or not divorce is right for you from a psychological, 
emotional and financial perspective. When asking for this type 
of divorce advice, you may want to consider seeking the advice 
of an attorney or financial planner for the financial 
considerations and a counselor experienced in Clinical 
Psychology and "personal-life" coaching for the impact that a 
divorce might have on you. Again, the point is, split the two 
concerns up so that you get a chance to speak to 2 different 
people who specialize in each area so that you will get the 
appropriate divorce advice.
 
Divorce advice type 5: Counseling for emotional support when 
deciding whether or not you really want a divorce or are just 
unhappy in your marriage. This type of divorce advice is crucial 
to your happiness because when you're in an emotional state, it 
is tough to make lucid and rational decisions. And, if you're 
wrestling with deciding whether or not to get a divorce (purely 
from an emotional perspective), you should do all you can to 
make a logical decision because how you approach this decision 
and the affects afterwards can be long lasting and far reaching. 
If you're are struggling with finding divorce advice, you may 
want to talk to friends, counselors, even other family members.
 
But, my divorce advice to you is, do it yourself.
 
I'm not saying don't talk with friends, counselors, and possibly 
family. What I am suggesting is that you reach the final 
decision of whether to get a divorce on your own, you have to 
live with it, no one else. The answer is inside you, you just 
have to get it out in a logical manner.
 
Whatever type of divorce advice you need, be sure that you're 
directing your energies in the right direction. If you don't 
separate the emotional aspects from the legal aspects of 
divorce advice, you might end up confused and unable to get 
the most out of any meeting you may have with an attorney or 
marriage counselor. At the end of the day, you should control 
your own destiny and make a smart decision based on logic, 
controlled emotion, and forward thinking.